Of so-called mediocre milestones and special feelings!

Every relationship has its share of ups and downs and in fact the relationship in itself could mean nothing important to the people/person concerned but during its journey, they reach some milestones, important or mindless is for them to make sense of. 

One such is a milestone of time spent knowing or trying to know a complete stranger who makes you feel weak in the knees and yet you feel all the more special. 

The moments- good or otherwise become a thread to mediocre milestones of dates. Mediocre, is the word when the special feelings only end up becoming just another thing for the people concerned. What are those milestones worth, when they just become another day, another number?

Yet, those very milestones mark a beginning that means the world with hopes of a future without endings. So, treasuring those moments, the entire journey, the so-called mediocre milestones, become imminent to the story of You and Me!

"Yeh shaam jab bhi aayegi,

  Tum humko yaad aaoge!

  

   Ajeeb dastaan hain yeh

   kahan shuru kahan khatam

   yeh manzile hain kaunsi

   na woh samajh sakey na hum!"

UNDER THE SKY!

IF ONLY, DREAMS WERE TRUE,

IF ONLY, STARS FELL ON EARTH,

IF ONLY, THE EVENING BREEZE MEANT YOUR COMING,

IF ONLY, PLACES MEANT LIVING,

HOW BEAUTIFUL, LIFE WOULD BE UNDER THE SKY!

IF ONLY, YOU LOVED ME,

IF ONLY, RAIN MEANT YOUR TOUCH,

IF ONLY, YOUR DIMPLED SMILES WERE FOR ME,

IF ONLY, WE WERE NOT APART LIKE THE SUN AND THE MOON,

HOW LOVELY, LIFE WOULD BE UNDER THE SKY!

 

EVEN IF HAD DISAGREEMENTS,

IF ONLY, YOU TRIED CROONING ME WITH YOUR AFFECTIONATE EYES,

IF ONLY, YOU EXPRESSED THROUGH HUGS AND KISSES,

A WORLD AWAY FORM ‘SORRYs, THANKYOUs AND PLEASE’ COULD BE LIVED FOREVER,

IF ONLY, DISTANCES DID NOT MATTER…

HOW WONDERFUL, LIFE WOULD BE UNDER THE SKY!

IF ONLY, WE COULD BOTH UNDERSTAND

EACH OTHER’S HEART AND THEIR RHYTHMS

IF ONLY, WE COULD STAND BY EACH OTHER

IN HAPPINESS AND IN PAIN, IN STRUGGLES AND SUCCESSES

HOW DRAMATIC YET ‘FULL OF US’, LIFE WOULD BE UNDER THE SKY! :) :)

OFF HEARTBREAKS AND HARDSHIPS!

OH YES! The month of May is here and with it the lingering question of "may or may not be"! 

This particular confusion lane starts with a broken heart and the hardest of the hard struggles that it ensues. Ofcourse, no way, we can belittle the pain and the trauma of losing a beloved or/and losing out on love, but it is important in a situation where emotions run wild and reason seems to betray trust and faithfulness, one should not altogether go with guns blazing on the poor love!

 

Imagine, only a few days back, you only called love, the most amazing and the most awesome feeling in the world, and now, just because, the loved person went on ahead with life, you blame the feeling of love for it? Love felt so good when you awarded it with beautiful words and phrases, and now, suddenly, a turnaround which compels it to ask "Why this Kolaveri?"

Its hard to contemplate at the beginning but the fact remains that you learn from your mistakes and they are like your shadows that do not leave you unless you move over them!

Agreed, that your lover did not turn out to be the perfect one, but that does not give a right to blame love for it, afterall, you only wanted to fall in love and in love with the idea of love. You only built your expectations too early and too fast without realising what it could mean for the future! 

All this might seem a bit harsh, but its time, we realize that blaming others, whether people or feelings can never work and repenting after problems have occurred does only lead to another struggle. I might be no one to comment on others life, but seeing this all around me, just leaves me aghast!

तो पागल हैं हम सब- ALL BECAUSE OF YOU MY 'sometimes' DEAR LOVE and 'often' NOT-SO-DEAR LOVE!!

Wish, I had wings!

Well, so many times, eyes await this dream of having wings to come true, 

sometimes in awe and sometimes in rue,

Life feels unfamiliar, either in wonder or crashes like never before,

moments, similar pass through, with eyes sore!

Meanwhile, few others seem to join in the queue,

yet, you keen to continue,

just seeking those golden wings,

to add to the chiming rings

Give me those wings!

that love the sweet smell

Remembering the Reclaimer!

Just days before my 21st, I came across a photograph that triggered so many memories, some very clearly replayed in my mind, some which were faint but either ways, they add up to a life that I had lived and silently left behind to say the least. 

Immediately, the first remark that I hear form one of my parent was that I was so much better when I was in that particular picture and ironically, I had a very different and infact, the very opposite strand of thought running in my mind- The fact that I think of myself much more positively now and in other words, more aware about how my surroundings and how things are around me currently. 

GYAN BHARATI SCHOOL third standard BATCH 2000-2001

Unfortunately, my parents think that the same level of so-called awareness has taken away my innocence.

(With all respect) They think that the girl who would be so happy to do all their work back then , now does not bother to do even half! They see all the 'going down the drain' changes in me and I think, the knowledge that I have gathered owing to a change in the surroundings, my college life, the course I am pursuing and the various other interests that have only made me in tune with the times and infact, meeting several kinds of people that I have come across at certain points of time who have expectedly or unexpectedly managed to contribute peculiar insights and lessons in my life in their own ways, whether a small token or big package have only made me a much better and infact, a mature being in love with the intricacies of life. 

 

A person I aspired to be and infact, I only seek more in the times to come! While growing up, I always wanted to reclaim the happiness that I thought, I had lost somewhere,

I was desperate to reclaim my right to choose that I found was mine yet was never allowed to make,

I was hell bent on reclaiming my way of life, my way of living and my own self in the multiple identities of life in the multifaceted societies and so today, I see a change that I ought to bring in ME and eventhough, my parents don't see it that way, yet I am sure, I have grown as a person, for the better!

Carefree, my days? They never will be, because I aspire for the unknown and the dreams that limmer with the pause to remember the reclaimer!

Staying away!

One of the most difficult things in the world is to tell yourself to stay away from a whole lot of things in life...and sometimes...life itself! A dream telling you to stay away from reality, Images telling you to stay away from illusion, mind telling you to stay away from stranded thoughts, the waves telling you to stay away from the obvious threat, a rainy and chilly morning telling you to stay away from work , and happiness telling you to stay away from a dreamy land and then there is certainly a constant tussle between heart and mind telling you to stay away from a distanced sweetheart!

I would not mind accepting that i am in one such confusion, a confusion that is hard to solve and infact, i don't want a solution because, at first glance, this confusion is much better than what the reality might await! It is strange, how at some point of time, i feel like staying away and it feels as if I am away from my own self, as if, It is not me but someone else at my place. 

 

These words might not make much difference to the world that I am in, but I am sure that they will make a mark where its due!

'Stay away' has not been asked for but then there is the constant turmoil inside that tells you to stay away and when you try doing that, it makes you realise, there is no way that makes staying away easier!

Let there be light soon!

The 'shor' about complexity!

Sitting in a gender studies class, i often wonder (yes! I need to do that) if we have made our lives more complex and complicated than its ought to be, followed by more deconstructions and reading between the lines in depth than is necessary and giving too much thought to things that really do not have much meaning! I appreciate that the human mind is thinking and trying to understand complex issues but too much criticism in the veil of 'constructive criticism' does not seem fit always and tends to drag on leading to habits of thinking and thinking too much without any gain.

 

Consider, for example, finding out the meaning of each and every dialogue, monologue or imagery whether an advertisement or a film or lyrics of a song for that matter. The problem does not lie in pointing out the 'wrong' but the problem lies in pointing out the 'wrong' always and being the so-called critic till the end of the day!

 

C'mon!

There is something called life and such things are part and parcel of it but delving too much into everything is highly problematic because it automatically increases the vulnerability of the group which has yet not been affected and has remained more or less ignorant of the matter. Uproar follows on matters that need less control contributing to the side-lining of the major issue and that does not help the cause.

 

It is not a bad idea to stick to tried and tested methods...the so-called Stereotypes as they are not always re-inforcing anything different from the way the society thinks and acts and as such, it is not a compulsion to change. No matter, how good the notion of breaking barriers and bringing about change remains, but the fascination with the whole idea of making things too complex remains a problem with many and the fact that relative and more equivalent issues do not find enough space is a subsequent problem. In simple words, we get caught up with too small and petty issues that the significant issues do not find footing!

Keeping simple things simple has become complex these days!

 

Blaming it on the Media, law and Judiciary or us as individuals might not help much but can we for a 'CHANGE' , keep things simple? Food for thought!

OPENING OF THE PANDORA'S BOX AND MIGHTY HUMANITY GONE ALL WRONG?

SHE WAS I....I AM SHE?

 

Enough has already been said and done about 'security' and 'safety' for women and there is no point in re-emphasising what the Government, media and the general public has been saying about the issue of brutality and violence against women. Its so strange that living in a democratic country per say has not really meant anything when it comes to a woman's independence. Everybody says that today's women have undergone tremendous changes where they have become career-oriented and achieved a lot of success while at the same time, proving to be excellent multi-taskers but the change has disappointingly and disapprovingly not been seen in the society's mindset and attitudes towards women and that in fact is a spot and a shameful way of progress in a developing country.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The talks regarding Human Rights have significance only when Respect is shown to humans as a whole and women particularly and they are not treated as animals/inanimate objects to be used and thrown away or repeatedly abused. The current Delhi Rape case has opened an old Pandora's box but in full view because the Media has been covering the issue with a lot of impact and the getting together of the people-young and aged alike has been gaining momentum which are becoming an inspiration to rise against such heinous crimes.

 

The Humanity as we witness it today has become more of a challenge to sustain and such cases highlight that impact to a very great extent. The problem is there for everyone to see and experience but the fact remains that nobody wants to take any action which would set an example simply because, it seems to be a woman's problem.....a woman's issue....and therefore pretty feminist in approach, that is definitely not that significant as compared to Budgets and financial policies that remain a man's forte.

 

As the old and famous phrase 'The opening of the Pandora's box' has a story attached to it where according to ancient Greek mythology, Zeus had given a box containing the evils and miseries of humankind to Pandora with instructions not to open it but she had eventually opened it out of curiosity and as such the perception and attitude towards women remains to be highly regarded as problem creators and therefore, they are left to solve their own problems at the mercy of a seamless web of administrative and bureaucratic pressures, the uncouth population and an helpless judiciary. This Pandora's box has not only opened the darker side of society but has brought a woman and her dignity into the mainstream society by highlighting that Identity Politics is a dangerous and highly situation-oriented phenomenon that seems debated and highly vulnerable in tough waters.

A woman is supposedly given a voice with a 33% reservation as compared to men in Political fields but the remnants of that number remain when no sort of cruelty and brutality is left to any sought of imagination and the character of the very same woman stands to questions.

 

The question of the humanity and sea of change goes all wrong with not the opening of the Pandora's box but with the closing of a thinking mind whereby Women are no more human beings....!! Its not the opening of the Pandora's box that has spelt doom for humanity but the closing of the doors to change!    

 

 

Karva Chauth is fine- what about THE MOON?

Moon, you have a shade of blue tonight –
Is it something that you saw or heard?
Only yesterday, your tone was proud and bright,
Yellow silver, full, and so assured.

These lines by Mark R Slaughter in' Moon, We Look to You' http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/moon-we-look-to-you/  just add to the significance of the day for millions of glaring eyes who look upto the Moon, some in the anticipation of breaking their fast for their dear (or could just be the opposite) husbands and the rest in their criticism of the custom. Either ways, Moon is the talking point of the whole day and the Guest of Honour for the evening. I don't know if anybody would have waited so much even for their husbands than for a glimpse of this brightest object in the night sky.

Its believed to be good for safety and longetivity of the husband and therefore, called the ideal wife's duty. OK! I get the point. But ever thought about the Moon?

The pointers!
The Fasting souls- whether married or otherwise pray for their husband's long lives, good enough but what about the criticism, abuses and the undue pressure on the Moon for making it on time?

The Moon for most people, especially those in love or married (notice the pun) is the constant unit of comparison. Though on an everyday basis, its compared to the beauty of the woman, on this day, for a change the comparison is with the man and that is why a sieve or sifter is used. Sadly, no holiday!

Remember, Dear ladies, lunatic decisions of your life when choosing a life partner might have made you suicidal, but fasting your way towards it on a Lunar moon day is definitely not in anybody's interest.

CONCLUDING REMARKS OF THE MOON-

Miles away, often i wait for you to see me,
so, here, i take my sweet revenge when you long for me!


         HAPPY KARVA CHAUTH :)

Just some time!

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Yes, there's me and there's you! There is my life that revolves around you and there is your life where i am not even in the reflections of the moon! I always dream of time doing wonders, and "just some time" is what i keep telling myself, but will it ever happen?
 
A year and a quarter that i know you, and i always look forward to the time when you will say the same about me. I feel the warmth of the morning sun when i hear your voice, remembering each and every smile that i have shared with you, every worry that did not seem troublesome after sharing them with you, few miles that i never imagined i could cover became my life's treasure hunt all because of you!
 
You might not realise your own worth, just some time with me can answer for all these unknowns.
 
          I promise you, i will never leave you, in the extremes of situations,
          take me with you to a world full of us, Just some time,
          I wish you could tell me before the aisle starts!!



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There is you and there is me.....JUST SOME TIME...."THERE IS US?"